10 Stoic Practices You Can Apply Today to Live with More Calm
Discover 10 ancient Stoic practices that slice through modern chaos and bring lasting calm to your life. No meditation cushions or mystical mantras—just time-tested wisdom that actually works.
Jon High
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Dec 21, 2024
Let me guess: You've tried all the trendy mindfulness apps. You've done the breathing exercises. You've even considered buying one of those desktop zen gardens, despite knowing deep down it'll just collect dust next to that gratitude journal you abandoned three weeks ago.
And yet here you are—still getting worked up over that passive-aggressive email from Karen in accounting.
Here's the thing about finding calm in our lives: We're doing it wrong. We're chasing manufactured peace through carefully curated Instagram feeds and $97 "inner peace" courses, when a bunch of ancient dudes already figured this shit out thousands of years ago.
The Stoics weren't sitting around trying to "manifest good vibes." They were dealing with plagues, wars, political corruption, and family drama that would make your latest Twitter argument look like a preschool tiff over who gets the red crayon.
And somehow, they remained unfazed. Not because they discovered some secret meditation technique or magic crystal—but because they developed practical mental tools that actually work.
So let's cut through the modern self-help fluff and get to the practices that have been battle-tested across millennia. Here are 10 Stoic techniques you can use today to find genuine calm in a world that seems designed to drive you crazy.
1. The Dichotomy of Control
Remember that time you spent three hours spiraling about something that hadn't even happened yet? Yeah, the Stoics had a fix for that.
The first and most fundamental Stoic practice is stupidly simple: Divide everything that happens into two categories — things you can control and things you can't. Then focus exclusively on the former and let go of the latter.
Your coworker's attitude? Not in your control. Your response to it? Totally up to you. The weather on your wedding day? Outside your power. How you adapt and handle it? That's your domain.
This isn't some feel-good platitude—it's a practical mental framework that cuts through 90% of your daily anxiety when you actually apply it.
2. Negative Visualization
This one's going to sound dark, but stick with me.
The Stoics practiced something called "negative visualization" or premeditatio malorum—basically, imagining the worst possible scenarios that could happen. Not to be pessimistic, but to: a) Appreciate what you currently have b) Be mentally prepared if shit actually hits the fan
Try this: Imagine losing your smartphone right now. Really feel the inconvenience, the stress, the disruption to your day. Now look at your phone. Feels a bit different, doesn't it? You just practiced negative visualization.
3. The View From Above
When you're stuck in traffic having an aneurysm because you're going to be five minutes late, try this Stoic mind trick: Imagine viewing yourself from 100 feet up. Then 1,000 feet. Then from space.
See that tiny dot losing their mind over a minor delay in the grand cosmic scheme? Yeah, that's you. Puts things in perspective real quick, doesn't it?
4. Voluntary Discomfort
Modern life has made us soft. We flip out when the WiFi drops for 30 seconds or when our coffee isn't the perfect temperature.
The Stoics knew that comfort breeds weakness, so they deliberately practiced voluntary discomfort. They would underdress for cold weather, sleep on hard surfaces, or fast for a day—not because they were masochists, but because they knew that practicing discomfort makes you resilient.
Try taking a cold shower tomorrow morning. Yes, it'll suck. That's the point. Building your tolerance for discomfort is like weight training for your mind.
5. Morning Reflection
Before you grab your phone and dive into the dumpster fire of social media each morning, take five minutes to ask yourself these Stoic questions:
What might frustrate me today?
What opportunities do I have to practice virtue?
What am I grateful for right now?
This isn't some woo-woo gratitude practice—it's mental preparation for battle. Because let's be honest, that's what most days feel like anyway.
6. Evening Review
Bookend your day with reflection. Before bed, ask:
What did I do well today?
What could I have done better?
What did I learn?
No judgment, no beating yourself up—just honest assessment and learning. Think of it as a daily performance review for your character.
7. Amor Fati
This is fancy Latin for "love of fate"—accepting and embracing everything that happens, even the bad stuff.
Not in some passive "whatever, dude" way, but actively choosing to view obstacles as opportunities. Your car breaks down? Great chance to practice patience. Get passed over for promotion? Perfect time to reassess your career path.
This isn't about being a delusional optimist—it's about finding utility in everything that happens, even the stuff that feels like cosmic middle fingers.
8. Memento Mori
Remember you're going to die. Cheerful, right?
But seriously, contemplating your mortality isn't morbid—it's clarifying. Nothing cuts through petty bullshit quite like remembering none of us are getting out of this alive.
That meeting that's stressing you out? You'll be dead someday and no one will remember it. Weirdly comforting, isn't it?
9. Focus on Process Over Outcomes
You can't control whether you get the job, win the game, or find true love. But you can control:
How well you prepare
The effort you put in
Your attitude throughout
The Stoics knew that peace comes from knowing you did everything within your power, regardless of the outcome.
10. Act According to Nature
This doesn't mean hugging trees (though hey, no judgment). It means acting in accordance with reason and virtue—the highest expression of human nature.
When in doubt, ask yourself: "What would the wisest version of myself do right now?"
The Real Secret to Stoic Calm
Here's what most people miss about these practices: They're not quick fixes or life hacks. They're tools that require consistent use to be effective.
You wouldn't expect to get ripped by thinking about dumbbells once a week. Similarly, you won't find lasting calm by reading about Stoic practices and never applying them.
The ancient Stoic virtues weren't just philosophical concepts—they were practical guidelines for living well. And they work just as well today as they did 2,000 years ago.
So pick one practice. Try it for a week. Then add another. Build your mental resilience one Stoic rep at a time.
Because here's the truth: The world isn't getting any calmer. But you can get better at navigating it.
And who knows? Maybe one day you'll look back at that email from Karen in accounting and think, "What would Marcus Aurelius do?"
(Spoiler alert: He wouldn't give a shit about Karen's passive-aggressive email formatting.)
Want to dive deeper into practical Stoic wisdom? Check out our guide to 40 Stoic exercises for daily life or start with our complete beginner's guide to Stoicism.
Remember: The goal isn't to become some emotionless robot. It's to find lasting peace in a chaotic world. These Stoic practices aren't about suppressing your humanity—they're about expressing its highest form.
Now get out there and practice some ancient wisdom. Your sanity will thank you.